She knows she’s more
than just a little misunderstood
She has trouble acting normal when she’s nervous
— The Counting Crows, Round Here
Today’s Writing Group prompt: What do you think people misunderstand the most about you?
I cannot count the number of times that friends of mine, after we’ve known each other for a while, have said to me some variation of “When I first met you, I thought you were mean.” Intimidating is another word I hear a lot, as in, “When we first met, I was afraid of you, you intimidated me.” This boggles my mind.
Sure, sometimes I have mean thoughts and say snarky (or even mean) things, but at heart, I really don’t believe I’m a mean person. In fact, I think I’m soft-hearted in the extreme, often to my detriment.
And intimidating? Me? I do not get it at all. I assume it comes from the fact that I don’t often let people get too close to me too quickly. I guess maybe when we first meet I’m too busy sizing you up to be super friendly. More likely, though, I’m frantically trying to figure out how to say the right thing and not spill my drink and trip over myself and generally how to not be my usual awkward self. Maybe I’m working too hard at that and it’s coming across as indifference or superiority. I promise, in no world are you more intimidated by me than I am by you.